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00:03 Speaker 1: Welcome to The Art of Hope podcast with your host Chadwick Sapenter.

00:08 Chadwick Sapenter: If you're willing to dream bigger than whatever your environment is then anything is possible.

00:12 S1: It's time to create the path to your success by overcoming your past, embracing your present and outlining your future.

00:20 CS: Today that goal becomes a reality.

00:22 S1: Every journey begins with the first step. So let's begin. The Art of Hope podcast.

00:32 CS: Welcome to The Art of Hope. This is episode seven. My name is Chadwick Sapenter. So today on episode seven we're gonna be talking about pressure. What is pressure? How are you dealing with pressure? What does it mean to experience pressure in your life? See, for many of us, there's pressure that comes externally. Family, friends, things like that, whether... Peer pressure and all of that type of shit but the real pressure that comes is with you deciding to become the person that you are supposed to be. The pressure... Pressure will expose you. Pressure will expose you for who you really are. It's going to define what it is you actually stand for when the heat gets turned up. You see, pressure is a process of squeezing all that is weak, all that is fragile, all that is timid out of us.

01:42 CS: And we need pressure. You see, because you don't know who you are when everything is comfortable. You don't know who you are when life is this fairytale where nothing goes wrong and everything goes your way and everybody likes you and everybody's giving you an opportunity and everybody's singing your praises and telling you how great you are. Because that's all bullshit. You don't know who you are in those moments. You don't know who you are until life punches you in the face. Until you're faced with disappointment and setback, and everything seems to go wrong, and you gotta make a decision, "Do I fold or do I go?" 'Cause see, that's what pressure does. Pressure busts pipes and creates diamonds. Pressure exposes us.

02:31 CS: See, I know I struggle with ease and comfort. Being at this point in my life right now is hard for me because it's not a lot of pressure. There's no serious threats of violence. I really don't feel like I'm gonna fail. My experiences have shown me if I do these things the right way then they'll work out. And that's scary as hell because I thrive under pressure. I appreciate having my back against the wall and having to make decisions with very little information and I just gotta act off of instinct. What do I know? Who am I? Pressure exposes that and it is exposing you too. You see, you thought that you could handle extreme circumstances. You thought that you could handle setbacks. You thought that you wanted to be an entrepreneur. You thought that you wanted to go to medical school or law school, you thought that you were ready to be a parent, and that it was gonna be all easy. See you thought these things, but then all of a sudden you lost all your money. Your investor backed out. You got a full-time job and you got school and you gotta figure how you're gonna pay rent. Your kids get sick, baby's mom is gone, baby's dad's gone, kid has an illness. Who are you? How you are responding to life's setbacks, pit stops and downfalls is who you are.

04:25 CS: All of us want to think that we're built for the tough times. But the truth is many of us are not. Many of us have made a decision that when the going gets tough, well hell, our asses get going. And that's what pressure does. Pressure exposes you. You gotta work that job, you... Four days in on 18-hour shifts, you're tired. And you're still not making enough money at the end of the week and at the end of the month to take care of all your bills and your lady is giving you all type of heat because you're not the man that you're supposed to be. Pressure. What do you do? You turn to the bottle. You leave to go get high. You try to escape some other way. You spend your last few dollars at the strip club so they can tell you beautiful lies about how much of the man you think you are but when in reality, you are a lazy piece of shit. That's who you are.

05:30 CS: And because even when you're at work, you're not really working, which is why you ain't got a promotion, which is why your boss is giving you shit all the time. Because you keep effing up. You're not doing what you're supposed to be doing. Or maybe you are and it's just not working out. But for the most part, I've seen... No, I won't say that. I'll say I believe because I have seen people bust their ass and it just not work out. And so I don't wanna look down on anybody that that's your reality. So, if that's you, if you're the person busting your ass, locked in, putting in the work, and things just aren't going your way, not you, not you. I'm celebrating you because you understand pressure. Because you're getting up everyday, you responded to it, and you're doing what you're supposed to be doing. I'm talking to the lazy son of a bitch that has decided that they would rather have fun or... They just don't feel like doing the things that they need to do. And maybe I'm hard on it because I hate those lazy things in me. I hate those areas of weakness in my life. The lies that I tell to myself about what I'm going to do and not doing it. Pressure is exposing all of us.

06:54 CS: And so what do you do when you get pressed? How do you respond when things are not working the way that they're supposed to? Where do you turn to? Do you flee? Do you retreat? Do you just soak in your emotions and your feelings, and you try to find people to make you feel better about feeling bad? Is that who you are? You need your mom to validate you because you're not handling this shit at home and so she can dog out your wife or your girlfriend because you've been a lazy asshole, you're not taking care of your kids the way you're supposed to, not because you're trying, but because you're actually too lazy because you wanna binge Netflix all damn day long. Because you have to get through your 12th season on NBA 2K. Or you really, man, you've been struggling to beat this team on Madden. That's you, you lazy asshole. That's who I'm talking to. Because it's okay to fail when you're working your ass off, but you're not a failure because you're lazy, you're not even a quitter. You just suck.

08:09 CS: And the pressure exposes you because the moment that you get called out on those things, usually what happens, and I'm talking to men right now, like the... I'm talking to males. How about that? Because some of you are men, you lazy assholes, and the people around you are suffering because you're lazy. And so, what we know is that when men fail to lead, chaos follows. When men fail to lead, chaos follows. Show me any broken family, show me any wayward child, and I'm gonna show you a father who's been absent either physically or emotionally or completely neglectful or abusive. You show me. And I'm gonna show you a man who didn't do what he was supposed to do. And so some of you think well, there aren't really that many opportunities out here where I'm from. So these jobs, man, they're not really paying nothing. Man, the fast food restaurants are only paying $10 an hour. I'll bust my ass and if I worked 10 now, that's 40 hours a week, $400, $1600 a month. I can make that in the weekend on the block selling a little of this, a little of that.

09:25 CS: And so you think it's a good alternative because the money's coming faster. That's what you think. But then what happens when you get busted. You get busted and now you're going to be spending the next 5-10 years in jail. So let's do some quick math. If you were to just take that $10 an hour assuming you never got a raise, you're working this job that you feel like is a dead-end job. So you're making $10 an hour, working 40 hours a week, that's $400 a week, let's say four weeks in a month, that's $1600 a month. Let's multiply that times 12. Let me get a calculator. Say 1600 times 12... All right, that's $19,200 a year. That's tough. It's not that much money. Now multiply that by 10 years. All right, that's only $192,000 over 10 years. That's a tough way to make a living, but here's the thing, it's 2019, you got access to Uber if you have a vehicle. If you have a bike, you can deliver food, grocery deliveries, there's a bunch of different ways to make extra money.

10:56 CS: There's all types of service in this sharing economy where you can make extra money, so you can... If that was your reality, you're only gonna make $10 an hour for whatever reason, $19,200 a year for 10 years, that's $192,000, so let's say, but then you say, "Okay, well shoot, in two days, I can make that same $1600 and do that every two days." All right, so let's just say if you make $1600 a week because that's all you really gotta work, $1600 a week times four, that's $6400 a week, times 12, that's $76,800. All right? $76,800 in a year. That's a lot more money compared. But now let's say you get away with this for two years. So for two years, you're making that $76,800. So, after two years, you get arrested, and you go to jail for that 10 years. You go to jail for 10 years. You made $153,600 in two years. Now I told you, if you worked that $10 an hour, $1600 a month, that would have been $192,000 after 10 years. Now okay, you say, "Well, shoot. The math makes more sense to make $1600 a week." But you just got arrested. So your silly ass is going to jail over $1600 a week.

12:18 CS: You're gonna spend jail... Be in jail for 10 years. Alright, now you're making no money or you've seen 13th, you're ass is enslaved. That's what you're doing. You're making 50 cents an hour or some shit, making honey buns for a company or sewing up socks or some shit. Fighting wildfires and they're never gonna hire you to be a firefighter. Some shit like that because your ass decided to make some quick money because you thought it was smart. This is really stupid. It's... I hope you hear it the tone of my voice. This is a dumbass decision. Don't do it. Now, let's go back. In two years, you made $153,600. You go to jail for 10 years so that means you're making zero. Now in that same 10 years, for that $153,600 that you gave up 10 years of your freaking life for, you would have made $192,000. So you would have came out on top, and you wouldn't had a damn cell with somebody who's shitting in the same dang prison as you, you would have had some freedom, you would have been able to figure some other stuff out.

13:17 CS: But nope, your ass is in jail. You're reading a lot of books and telling a bunch of lies to other dudes who made some dumbass decisions, some of them wrongfully but eh, we don't know. Everybody's innocent and shit. Okay, now you're in jail 10 years. You had three children in that time when you were out when you were the man because you can get... Your little Charger and shit with the rims or whatever.

13:40 CS: Fresh pair of Jordans. Wait... You got somebody who can wait in line for your ass. Because that's what's really important. Alright, 10 years your three children now, they were four, six and two when you went to jail. You've been gone for 10 years. Ten years, their father is gone for $153,600. Now they have nothing. Mom has to try to figure it out. So kids are raising themself on the streets. Some hustler that got their hands on your daughter impressing her with the same bullshit you was chasing. Now what? Now what?

14:15 CS: You said, "Man, I'll do anything for my kids. The pressure's on me. I gotta eat, I gotta do what I gotta do to eat" and all that stuff, or whatever. How the hell are your kids eating now? How they eating now? What are they doing? You did all that, all that that you said that was for them. You were willing to go to jail for 10 years for them, and deal with everything that comes with that. But you had too much pride to go make $10 an hour for 10 years. Never look down on a man willing to bust his ass and get to work. I don't care what the job is. You never look at somebody down willing to get up every single day and get to work.

14:58 CS: And if you're in a position where you say, "Man, that's a hard working man. Let me try to help him." That's what you should do. You should try to create opportunities so that this person can increase their earning potential. You don't get to look down on somebody willing to bust their ass and work. Now you lazy suckers, you dudes, you scapegoats. You, that is trying to find the easy way out. You that is sacrificing your entire family, your children's future, their legacy, over some bullshit weed. Over selling some pills. You, you a sucker. I don't care what they tell you, you a sucker.

15:34 CS: And there's nothing okay about that. We gotta do better. And listen, I'm saying this, my father was a sucker. He lost his life because he loved the streets more than he loved his children. So he died when I was eight years old. Addicted to heroin. Got AIDS from sharing drug needles. Streets don't love nobody. This pressure is exposing you. It's exposing your pride and who you are because you think that a real man is somebody who's gonna really be willing to get out on the block or whatever it is, to go get it. No the real man is gonna say, "Yo, I'm taking my ass to work and I'm gonna keep working here and when I'm off of here, I'm gonna try to get a new trade or a new skill so I can get better."

16:15 CS: Pressure is exposing each of us. All of us are being exposed. What do you do? What do you do? You see, in order for a diamond to be formed... In order for a diamond, this precious pristine jewel to be formed, it has to go through intense heat and pressure over a prolonged period of time. Intense heat and pressure over a prolonged period of time. In each of us, God, the Creator of the universe is trying to pull the diamond from within us. And sometimes that means that we have to experience heat and pressure over a prolonged period of time. But you have to be willing to endure it.

17:27 CS: You have to be willing to suffer under it, you have to be willing to be pressed and pressed, and pressed, and molded into that stone, and then be willing to display yourself as a flawless beautiful creation. You see, there's no shame in having to dust yourself off, stand up, and being willing to face humiliation, setbacks, shame, stumbling, failure, but getting up... But getting up, getting up. Learning something new. Becoming whatever it is that we need to be, developing the skill set. Earning our way. There's nothing wrong in it, there's no shame in that. There's no shame in having to do it the long way. There's no shame of having to go get your real estate license, your insurance license and say, "You know what, man, I'm gonna figure this out."

18:50 CS: There's no shame in that, there's no shame in saying, I'm going to take it the hard way, and the long way in the beginning, in order for me to get there. I'm talking to you, young man, young woman, grown man, grown woman, there's no shame in that. What you should be ashamed of is not following through on those things that you say you were going to do because the pressure gets too hot, or gets too tough, or it's taking too long, so you just give up, and you say, "Man, I'm just checking out because it's not gonna work out for me." That's what you should be ashamed of. That's what's always pissing me off about myself is that weakness that doesn't see through the things that I say I'm going to do. Forget anybody else's expectations, I owe it to me to follow through.

19:39 CS: I owe it to me to overcome. I have not gone through these things, I have not experienced this heat and this pressure in my life, just to stay the same. I haven't made it through these trials just so that I can be the same person and neither have you. You see, your life, for some of you, is just working out. It's an easy road, it's smooth, it's frictionless, for some of you that's the reality, and I respect it, if that's your reality. And I appreciate it. I want that type of reality for my children. But the truth is, even if I try to make the road that they have to face as easy as possible, they're still gonna face their own trials. They're still going to be things that happen in their life that they need to overcome. The pressure, whether it be the pressure of expectations, the pressures of having privilege, the pressure of having desires, is going to eat at them, and it will expose them in the same way that it is exposing each of you, and the same way that pressure has exposed me.

21:00 CS: You see, pressure is not the problem. Pressure is a part of the process. Pressure is exposing us. What's inside of you is coming out the longer you're pressed. So who are you? Who are you now, and who do you need to become in order to endure the intense heat and pressure that is required to make you a diamond?

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21:33 CS: Thank you guys for tuning in. This is episode seven of the Art of Hope Show. Please like, subscribe, leave a comment, leave a five star review, and thank you for coming with me on this journey, helping me keeping a promise to myself of me putting myself out there, and being willing to be criticized a little bit. Well, I can take it, I can take the heat. So let me know what pressure you face. What's some pressure you face? How are you overcoming it? Don't fold. Don't bend. Don't break. The pressure's coming, but you built for it.

00:01 Speaker 1: Thank you for tuning in to The Art of Hope Show. My name is Chadwick Sapenter. I'm looking forward to today's show. In today's show, we're going to be discussing standards, how low standards impact us and why we should raise the standards that we have for ourself and for the people around us.

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00:23 Speaker 2: Welcome to The Art of Hope podcast with your host Chadwick Sapenter.

00:28 S1: If you're willing to dream bigger than whatever your environment is, then anything is possible.

00:33 S2: It's time to create the path to your success by overcoming your past, embracing your present and outlining your future.

00:40 S1: Today, that goal becomes a reality.

00:42 S2: Every journey begins with the first step. So let's begin The Art of Hope podcast.

00:51 S1: See, I grew up in a neighborhood where... Or I'll say neighborhoods where if you look out your door, you could see the result of low expectations everywhere. You could see what was happening because people had a low standard of how they expected themselves to carry on and how... And what outcomes that they expected. And so that's me growing up, seeing what low expectations does to an environment because if you have low expectations, then you're not hard on yourself when you don't achieve and achievement matters because you... For example, society will put low expectations on you to say, "Well, if you come from a certain place and you've had certain experiences, then you shouldn't be held to the same standard as other people. It's actually okay for you not to accomplish anything because of where you come from." And so what happens, though, is that typically people that come from poor areas, and they'll usually do this with black people, Mexican people, they will... I mean, we see it all the time. They lower the standard because there's a belief that you can't accomplish the same thing.

02:15 S1: There's some national merit scholarships that says, "Okay, if you qualify forward, if you're in the top 1%, but if you're black," or a term I never use like minority, right? I'm not... Ain't no minor about me. I never use that phrase. But if they put you on one of these categories, then they say, "Well, if you're in the top 3%, lowering the standard for you." I think there's an attempt to say there's been some hardships and injustices that have happened to specific groups of people, so we need to make some concessions to give them time to catch up. In a way, I get it. I understand the attempt, but I think in execution, basically, what it's saying is, "We don't think you're smart enough. We don't think you're capable enough so we wanna make a concession, you with your... You, so that you can... So that this is what it looks like to be equal because something inherently is inferior about you." And I think that's just nonsense, but forget externally, what people... What expectations people set for you or what standards people have for you because that doesn't matter so much. It's not the people outside of you whose expectations and standards have the greatest impact.

03:29 S1: What are your own personal standards? Are you pursuing excellence in everything that you do or are you giving yourself out? Are you pursuing excellence in everything that you do or have you given yourself a way out and made it okay for you to just fall short in certain areas? Because one of the things that I believe is that, if we raise the standard, then we raise the family. And if you raise the family, you raise the community. If you raise the community, you change the culture of the people group that you're around, but it starts with raising the standard forward within the family. Through one of my organisation, a non-profit, we work with a ton of young people. And my thing is I don't like talking about problems, I just wanna get my hands dirty. I'm gonna get in the streets and I'm going to try to be a solution toward some of these problems, but what often happens, we'll go into schools. And what you will see is the results of these low expectations and low standards. Teachers are struggling trying to get DeAndre to read instead of DeAndre dealing with the reading problem, DeAndre cusses out the teacher. And then the teacher calls the parent, and then the parent makes an excuse for the child because the parent's embarrassed at this also.

04:47 S1: One example I remember my wife, she was doing some student teaching at a middle school, and I don't know what book they were reading or whatever it is. And if you met my wife, is just... She's a sweetheart. She's an amazing woman. She's just laid back. She's chill. She's nice to everybody and she really deeply has a compassion for just people, all people. And so she's doing... They're going around the circle and having the kids read and she gets to this kid, I don't know his name, and it's not important 'cause I'm not trying to embarrass the kid because it's just a story, but she gets to him, and he's like, "Bitch, I told you I don't wanna read." He cusses her out. And my wife, I think, at that time, she was probably a lot more innocent than when she met me because you know, but at that time, she was a lot nicer. And so she was in shock that somebody would actually talk to her like this, especially a young person who she's just like, "I just asked him to read. I don't understand what happened." And so the parents come in and sit down with the principal and them, and then the mom does exactly what I just told you, she says, "Well, he told you he didn't wanna read." Now, this kid is screwed. Unless something has changed or somebody's intervened somewhere.

06:08 S1: I'm curious to know what's happened with this specific kid, but I can tell you tons of these stories where you have parents who lower the standard. Who say, "It's okay for you... The expectation is for you to excel and to be elite as an athlete." To be the best basketball, football player, the fastest kid. And so there's a standard of excellence when it comes to that sport. I think that's a good thing. But that standard is not matched when it comes to the other important, either equally or more important just depending on what matters to you, areas of your life. So for example, it's not okay for you to be a great athlete but a horrible student. Not to say... Now, some people actually have learning disabilities. There are things within their brain that they cannot control that prevent them from being able to learn and retain information. That is some people's story. Regardless of the color of their skin, we know that's the fact.

07:01 S1: Now, in those cases we should be getting people help. There are plenty of resources, especially if you're in America, there are resources at just about every school that can help you if you have a learning disability. Often what happens though is that people will be too embarrassed to actually get the help that they need. Nobody wants to admit that they have a learning disability. So instead of saying, "Hey, I actually have a disability, I need help. Let me get into the special education program." People will much rather pretend like everything's okay to avoid the stigma of being labeled as Special Ed or the kids call SPED. But here's the thing, you pretending you don't have a problem doesn't mean you don't have a problem and it doesn't make the problem go away. All it does is prevent you from actually getting the help by identifying the problem and solving it, taking advantage of the resources. But let's say your jump shot be off. Let you be in a situation to where you need extra training and parents are breaking their back to do these things.

08:03 S1: Now, here's the thing, I'm not attacking any specific group. I'm just telling you one from my own experiences, this is what I see. And then for me, who somebody who's deeply concerned about family and communities, especially families and communities of poor people not just poor people that are black or brown, but poor people in general, we see these things happening. And I'm somebody who's grown up extremely poor and I don't want that cycle repeated for my children. So I'm not speaking as an outsider. This is my lived experience. I know what low standards did to me and it wasn't until somebody called me out and said, "Look it's not okay. Your situation doesn't define you. Do something about your life. You can. It's just a matter of what you're gonna do. Stop making excuses. And I've had plenty of mentors. I've had coaches that all called me out and held me to a higher standard even when I wanted to leave it.

08:50 S1: My mother we grew up at the height of the crack era. We grew up in areas where it was violent and gangs were taken off in San Antonio and it was extremely violent. People were getting killed daily. These things were going on. But my mother no matter what was going on, how poor we are, no matter how many days we went out food, she never allowed the environment that we grew up in to dictate what our standard was. She said, "No, reading is important. So we began reading early. Education is important. All of these things. And so even when I acted in a way that was contrary, I knew what the standard was. It wasn't because the standard was lower for me, it's just because I wanted to rebel against it. So I say this, We need to raise the standards to raise the family.

09:35 S1: And if we raise the families then we raise the communities. What we have to do is take inventory and say, "Hey, am I giving myself a pass? Is my child doing something wrong and I'm not addressing it because I don't wanna deal with the confrontation or the conflict? Am I a dad who has been absent from my child's life and making an excuse, "My baby mama be tripping. Or I can't stand the kid's mom." Whatever it is. Are you somebody who's making an excuse for that situation? Have you said, "Well, you know what? I'm not taking care of my child or loving my son or whatever it is because some other... " You're lowering the standard and then you have other people who are making an excuse to say it was not their fault. It's not their fault.

10:26 S1: We have to assume 100% responsibility for the things that we've been given, the privilege to steward over by God. Our families, our children, our jobs, the environment, the community and place that we live in. We all have a responsibility to do our part to uplift those things and to cultivate those things and make them better than where they started. We have a responsibility to do so. But lower standards lower the culture. And if we continue to just lower the standards then what that means is that we will keep seeing struggle with reading and writing. We will say, "Well, that's just not for... " And I have people saying this all the time, that somehow that whether it's the school system is set up for black kids to fail because black kids can't sit... Nonsense like that. Kids can sit still and can learn. We have to just make that important. And it starts at home. It starts with saying, "You know what? I struggle with math or I struggle with reading or whatever it is. But my kids won't. So I'm gonna make sure that I am introducing them to these things at a young age." Sometimes it means we gotta turn the TV off and we have to make it a priority to be getting these things done. We have to help our kids, our sons, our daughters understand that it's not okay to just pass, that there's an expectation for you to be excellent. Sometimes you'll fall short of that expectation but it doesn't change the expectation. The standard is the standard.

12:01 S1: And that's one of the things with my sons, I have a 16 year old and I have younger sons that is six, four and almost two. And my goal with them is just to understand, "Listen, you were created for a purpose. You were made by God to be great." And I've tried to reinforce this since they were little kids and get them to understand that the standard is the standard. The expectation does not change just because your feelings change. The expectation is not lowered just because you don't feel like it. Nobody cares. Nobody cares how you feel. The standard is the standard. So we have to keep the standard high and even... Listen, the problem that we often have in society is not that people have set too high standards and fell short of them. That's not the problem. The problem is often that people have set their standards too low and actually achieved it. Have set the standards too low and actually achieved it.

13:01 S1: We gotta raise those standards, and we gotta set higher expectations for what we expect for ourselves, what we expect for our children, what we expect for our families, and then how we plan to be involved in the communities. Because what happens is this, because you have a lower standard, we accept nonsense. And so I'm not trying to offend anybody, and I'm not trying to say, "Well hey, I'm better than you, so do it my way." What I'm saying is that, we have thousands of years of history where we can look at cultures, we can look at European cultures, we can look at African cultures, we can look at Asian cultures, we can look at... We can look at communities north, south, east and west, and we can say, "Hey lower standards have led to bad things." And we have plenty examples of those things. And so what I'm saying is this, if we will raise our standards, we can raise our, the families, so we should... It starts there, it starts with raising your own personal standards, raising the standards that you have within your own family, and then the standards in the community change as a result of that.

14:18 S1: And as you start to introduce a higher standard, the culture of whatever that community group will change, and it's across the board. We accept this notion that it's okay for grown men to not take responsibility, right? We call 18, 19, 20, 21, 25-year-old men, "Oh, he's just a kid." No. No. You don't get to just be a boy forever, adolescence is some bullshit, adolescence is some straight BS. You don't get to figure it out and play around until you're 30. There's not a magic age where all of a sudden, "Oh now I get it, I've grown up." That's not how it works, we gotta take responsibility now. Young men, man up, young women, woman up. Raise the standard for what you expect for yourself, what you expect for your community, and what you will tolerate for yourself. And so, I believe that if we have strong men, we will have better communities. I believe that if we have men willing to lead in sacrificing for their families, our families will be stronger.

15:26 S1: I believe that if we have men who are being altruistic, putting the needs of others before themselves, and leading, being willing to stand up for what's right no matter what culture says. Being able to determine that regardless of what's going on, here's how I'm operating. If we do that, I think our society will be better, then our world will be better. So thank you guys for tuning in, my name is Chadwick Sapenter, I don't have the answers, I'm not claiming to have all the answers, I'm just on here keeping a promise to myself, you don't have to like what I say, you don't even have to like how I say it, I don't even care. This ain't about you, this is about me keeping a promise to myself, and in the process, if I can help other people, I wanna do so.

16:09 S1: So tune in next time, thank you guys. Tell me, where do you see low standards having a negative impact? What can we be doing better? What does it mean to raise standards for yourself and for your own family? Where have you been making excuses in lowering the standard? I wanna know, I wanna hear all about it. Thank you guys for tuning in, looking forward to next time, have a great day.