Have you ever felt like you aren’t living the life that you should be living? Are you looking for some inspiration to get you from where you are to where you want to be? Do you have limiting beliefs that are preventing you from taking the next step? If you answered yes to any of those questions this episode of The Art of Hope Podcasts is for you.
My primary goal with this podcasts is to convince you of the listener to take the next step in your journey. Small-minded, pessimistic, limiting beliefs will stunt your progress before you even begin.
The glass is always half full. You have to learn to always see the glass half full. ALWAYS. That’s your choice, don’t let anyone take that choice away from you.
That’s not what this is gonna be. And so to be clear I do believe that there’s value in thinking positively. There’s value in positive affirmation and using positive words. There’s value in having a vision and visualizing where you wanna be in the middle of turmoil. James Clear the Author of Atomic Habits wrote this on positive thinking which I mostly agree with.
I think that there’s value there, and there are a lot of people who I listen to and have a ton of respect for with some great business advice out there. But this place, The Art of Hope, this isn’t a place for cute solutions because I don’t believe in cute solutions or well packaged, one size fits all remedies.
In this podcasts episode:
- I share with you how to block out the noise of family and friends who try to convince you to play it safe.
- How to overcome the noise that exists externally but most importantly I talk about how to get over the internal noise.
In addition to dealing with noise in this podcast episode, we discuss fear and how most of the things that we fear are not as real as they seem the closer we step towards them. You can hear more about my thoughts on fear in the next episode of the podcasts.
00:00 Chadwick Sapenter: This is episode number one of The Art of Hope Show, and I am pumped. I got a question for you though. Have you ever wrestled with doubt? Most of us have. Maybe it's even the reality of your perceived limitations. How do you work through that? How have you worked through that in the past? Today, I introduce my new podcast by discussing how you can silence the noise and doubt, how you can crush fear. Thank you for listening. Be sure to like, subscribe, and comment and leave us a five-star review. It really helps us to help other people by spreading this message and making more people aware of the show. I hope you enjoy, let's crush it.
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00:36 Speaker 2: Welcome to The Art of Hope Podcast with your host, Chadwick Sapenter.
00:43 CS: If you're willing to dream bigger than whatever your environment is, then anything is possible.
00:47 S2: It's time to create the path to your success by overcoming your past, embracing your present, and outlining your future.
00:54 CS: Today, that goal becomes a reality.
00:56 S2: Every journey begins with the first step. So, let's begin The Art of Hope Podcast.
01:04 CS: Welcome to The Art of Hope Show, thank you for tuning in. My name is Chadwick Sapenter. So let's get to it. In the intro I asked you a question, what do you think about your limitations? Do you feel stuck like where you are right now, is just where you're going to be like this is all that life has for you. Do you ever feel uncertain sometimes about very basic things about, how do I get from point A to B? How do I get from where I am to where I wanna be? Have you ever looked around at whatever's going on in your life, it could be where you live, it could be the car you drive, it could be the relationship that you're in, it could be the job you have, it could be the dreams that you've given up on, it could be, whatever, from the material to the spiritual to whatever it is. Have you ever looked around and thought to yourself that this can't be it. That there has to be more than life than this.
02:09 CS: So, if that's you, and I know I've been there. But if that's you, I wanna welcome you here to The Art of Hope Show and let you know that you've come to the right place, and I want you to know that you aren't alone. As a matter of fact, most people aren't living the life that they were created to live because of what they believe about their own limitations. So you're in good company. What I want you to understand is that your limitations don't determine your destination, your limitations don't determine your destination. Where you have come from, what you have experienced, those things that make you feel stuck right now, those things, although you may feel them, they don't determine what your outcome is going to be. They don't set the barrier there.
03:02 CS: So for most of you, most of you out here, you have been listening to a lot of noise, and even worse than just listening to noise, you've been believing the noise. And the noise comes from everyone and everywhere. At times it's loud. It can be so loud that it drowns out your thoughts, it clouds your vision, and sometimes the noise is so quiet that it paralyzes you. Have you ever felt that, like that quiet noise, it's just a constant whisper in your heart and your mind, just reminding you that you're not good enough, you can't, you never will be, whatever the heck it is, it's a lie though. That thing, it's there, that quiet paralyzing noise, you feel it, you've felt it, if you're not feeling it now. Sometimes the noise comes from other people like your family and friends. Our family and friends always think that they have our best intentions in mind when they tell us things like be realistic or just play it safe, or you know what, don't risk that because you don't wanna mess up.
04:08 CS: Or what about the unknown, or if you step out there and it doesn't work out, well then you're gonna be really mad. Like, don't let go of this good thing, but we know good is the enemy of great. Sometimes you have to let go of good things to pursue even better and great things. But sometimes our family, I think they just mean well. And some of that noise, it comes from people who don't mean you well at all, these people are your enemy. Sometimes there's people who just want you to fail because to them you succeeding is a reflection of their misery. Sometimes they're so miserable about where they are in life that they take pleasure in you joining them in their pit of misery. You know people like this, some of these people are your family members, some of them are your cousins, some of them are your co-workers, some of them you're in a relationship with right now. They're miserable in life, they doubt themselves, they've given up on their dreams and they want you to give up on yours too. You know those people.
05:12 CS: Now you know deep down that you shouldn't even care about what they have to say, but sometimes they get you. You listen to their doubt or you read their comments, and you believe them. But even in the middle of that, you believe them, but they aren't even your real problem. There aren't any of our real problems, those people, the haters, the enemy, those people who just want us to fail, who will smile on our face, but seems to always wanna twist that night just a little bit to remind us of how inadequate we are. You remember the time you failed that test? Yeah, you can never do that. You remember when you didn't get in, when you didn't get approved, when you got kicked out, all of your failures, all of your short-comings that you thought you were sharing with them in confidence as a friend, they tend to bring them up to you. Those people, those people aren't even your real problem. They're not any of our problems.
06:05 CS: Yours, mine, our biggest obstacle is the loudest noise that we hear. It's the most damaging voice that keeps us stuck and has us exactly where we are right now. It's the voice in your own head, it's the voice in my head because you... We know all of our short comings. You know all of your past failures, you remember them, even the ones that people don't know about, you know when you drop the ball, you know when you made a mistake. We know all of our past failures, and the voice in your head is so powerful that even when you overcome the noise from family and friends and your enemies, even when you appear to have it all figured out, you spend many nights wrestling with doubt because maybe, just maybe, you really can't do it. After all, you know you the most. You know you the most, you know your habits, you know what you sneak and do... You know you. So, maybe, maybe that voice it just keeps reminding you, maybe you can't really do it and we listen to it sometimes, and it's terrible.
07:22 CS: But it's constant, and over and over and over that powerful voice just keeps trying to remind us and hold us in this place of comfort where we are. It just tries to keep us there. And so the voice in your head is so powerful that even when you overcome the noise of your family and friends, like when you get past that, like all of those well-intended noise from mom, from dad, from brother, from sister, from the people close to you that think they're doing your favor by telling you to play it safe and not really go after it. Even when you overcome that, even when you will overcome the noise from your haters, from your enemies, those people who just wanna see you miserable as them. Even when you overcome that, when you appear to have it all figured out, and something we know how to pretend especially today, we know how to put out the best picture, to put up the best image but most of us and a lot of us, we spend our nights wrestling with doubt because maybe, just maybe, you can't do it.
08:27 CS: But here's the thing, even though you know yourself the most, nobody has lied to you more than you have lied to yourself. Nobody. The person in the mirror, you look at that person in the mirror every single day and nobody has lied to that person more than you. You see, that's exactly what doubt and fear is, it is a liar, doubt is a liar, fear is a liar, self-doubt is a liar because you know what, you have already overcome more than you realize and more than you will give yourself credit for. Think about it for a second. There's something in your life that you want to believe you'd never be able to overcome and somehow you did it. Think about it, what's that thing? What's that thing, that thing that you never thought that you'd be able to overcome, but somehow you were able to do it? See, fear is a liar. It's false evidence appearing real, it is not real. Fear is a liar. Fear is like a mirage or a hologram. It appears to be there and sometimes there may actually be something there, but it only appears real from a distance. It's not like... You're far away from it. You haven't taken the step so it feels like it has to be there because I'm seeing something.
10:06 CS: As I look out, there's something there. I can't quite make it out, but man, it's something there, so it must be real and it just seems like it's real, but it's false. Fear is like a mirage or a hologram. The further you stay away from it, the more realistic it looks. But here's the thing, just like a mirage and a hologram, the more you walk towards it, the less real it becomes. Like the closer you get to it, you realize more and more every step that you take towards that thing, that mirage, that hologram, that fear, every single step that you take, the moment you take a step towards it, the moment you take a step through it, you realize that it wasn't real. That you didn't have anything to really fear at all. My purpose, and the only purpose of me starting this podcast is to convince you, the listener, to believe in what could be if you would just take the next step.
11:22 CS: Step away from your comfort zone, your safe space, and a step towards your destiny because on the other side of fear is where hope lies. My name is Chadwick Sapenter and I'm a serial entrepreneur, an inspirational speaker, I'm an author, and although right now, life has turned a corner for me, in all the years I spent striving, and struggling, and chasing a dream, it paid off, but I wouldn't say that success is my specialty. Success is not my specialty, it's something I'm learning to accept and manage in my own life, but adversity, the grind, that's my specialty. Being in the bottom of the pit with nothing is where I'm at my best and that's where I feel most comfortable. This life, I'm living now, to be honest, man, it's weird. I'm nowhere close to where I wanna be. I'm so far from where I was, but no matter how far I make it, I still feel like I'm just so far away. But if you listen to me right now, let this service prove that no matter how far down or how far back you start, you can change your life one step at a time. And some of those steps will be smooth, some of those steps will be on solid ground, and some of those steps will be on glass. Maybe it even gonna be over fire, right?
12:49 CS: But as long as you keep stepping away from comfort and towards your fear, you will eventually make it through whatever it is you're going through. This podcast is not the place where you come to get easy-to-follow solutions wrapped up in neat, cute little bows. That's just not it. That's not what this is gonna be. And so to be clear, though, I do believe that there's value in thinking positive. There's value in positive affirmation and using positive words. There's value in having a vision and visualizing where you wanna be in the middle of being in the middle of turmoil, I think that there's value there, and there are a lot of people who I listen to and have a ton of respect for with some really great business advice out there. But this place, The Art of Hope, this isn't a place for cute solutions because I don't believe in cute solutions or well-packaged, one-size-fits-all remedies.
13:52 CS: Because the truth is, the five steps that work for me, won't work for another person. The five steps that work for you may not work for somebody else. Some will, some won't. But on this podcast, this platform, The Art of Hope, I will be honest. I'll bring guests on that will be honest and authentic with you to help you on your journey to become the best version of yourself possible. And if for whatever reason we get to that best version of you, and we find out that you at your best still sucks, then what we're gonna do is help you to become somebody that you can be proud of, and show you how that we can create a version of you that you are absolutely in love with. 'Cause see what I've learned is that if you want to go far, if you want to become something beyond what you've ever thought was possible, before you can begin the journey, you have to look back at where you've been, what you've overcome, your wins and your losses in order to fully appreciate where you are.
15:02 CS: So in the next episode, we take a look back. We begin a three-part series called, "Where are You Headed? How Do You Get From Where You Are to Where You Wanna Be?" We break each episode into three sections, "Where Have You Been? Where are You At? And Where Do You Wanna Go?" I'd really love to hear about what's been holding you back, or if you've overcome fear and are pursuing your idea of success, whatever that may be, I'd really love to hear about it. So, in the comment section, whether you're on YouTube, whether you're on your podcast, leave us a comment, tell me, what are you struggling with right now, what are you wrestling with, what is that fear that's been holding you back, what was that fear that you had to kick in the tail to get going? What's the thing you've overcome? I'm sure other people would love to hear about that also. So leave us a comment in the comments section. Also leave us a five-star review in a comment. That really helps, what we're trying to do with this platform is just to inspire people and to get people to believe that they can get from no matter how low they feel, no matter where they think they've started, that they can get somewhere.
16:04 CS: So by you sharing this and leaving a comment, it really helps us to get more exposure. I'd appreciate it if you did that. So until next time, my name is Chadwick Sapenter. And you've been listening to The Art of Hope Show. Make it a great week.
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