LOVE EQUALS ACTION
How do you feel when someone you put your trust in lets you down?
One of the greatest lessons I learned about words and actions came when I was a senior in high school.
During the last game of football my senior year they have parents night. It’s where parents walk out with their child and get announced in front of the fans in attendance. For both parents and students this is a big deal. It symbolizes one of many milestones that take place leading up to graduation. For parents it’s a way to be acknowledged for the miles you’ve added to your vehicle driving to and from practice and a slight return on your investment. It’s a moment filled with love, pride, and tears of joy.
Initially I was excited once I got home from practice I approached my foster dad who I called “dad” per his request. I walked up to dad as he laid back in his recliner and told him about Senior Night what it was and how much it would mean to me if he was my escort. After listening to me for a few minutes dad looked me in the face and without hesitation said:
“No, we don’t do stuff like that.”
I felt devastated but it was a great lesson for me one that I carry with me today. It’s easy to say you love or care about someone or something, but the truth about how you feel towards something or someone will be evident in the actions you take to accomplish and the sacrifices you are willing to make for that thing or person,
More than what you say you believe or how you say you feel, what you do will outweigh anything that comes out of your mouth.
This time of year when everyone is evaluating resolutions and goals a lot of us realize that we have been lying to ourselves. We said we will do things or stop doing things that we have no intent on doing or stopping. Your words are important they have power but your actions will out weigh. This is true in all areas of your life:
- Your faith (you can say you believe in something, but how are you living)
- Your relationships (you can say you love someone, but how is that being lived out)
- Your career (you can say you want to reach a certain level, but how’s your work ethic)
- School (you can say you want to make good grades, but how much time are you spending studying)
- Your family (you can say you want to spend more time with your spouse and kids, but what time are you getting home from work and what are you doing when you get home)
It doesn’t matter what area of your life you want to focus on if your actions aren’t congruent with your desire in that area then you have told the same lie to your self my foster dad told me. Don’t make this mistake with your children or with yourself. Say how you feel and then back it up with your actions.
It’s a new year do what you say and say what you mean nothing more nothing less.