7 words of encouragement kids need to hear:
All kids need to be affirmed by the adults in their life, kids in foster care need inspiration and affirmation even more. Below are seven words of encouragement children in foster care need to hear often.
You are loved
Each of us needs to know that we are loved it’s an essential part of who we are foster kids possibly more than most need to know that they are loved. Abuse and neglect can leave you feeling empty and unloved. But what if you just met them? You may not love them specifically but was it not an act of love that inspired you to open your home in the first place? Hearing the words I love you is crucial. If they don’t hear it from you your silence validates the lie they believe because of the circumstances that landed them in foster care in the first place. Say I love you with your words and show them you love them with your actions.
Kids in foster care need to know that it is ok to be a kid. Kids break stuff, they make mistakes, they do things you don’t want them to do, and try things they shouldn’t. You did. I did. Most of the time kids in foster care face extreme consequences for normal kid behavior. Kids in foster care need to know that it’s ok for them to be kids.
You were created for a purpose
Kids in foster care need to know that they are not a mistake, that their life has a purpose, and that no matter what the circumstances were that brought them into the world they need to know that before they were knitted together in their mothers womb God knew they were coming and has a purpose for them.
I’m proud of you
We love to praise success and I don’t think this is a bad thing. Praise achievement but also praise effort. Achievement most of the time measures how well you do in relation to the group you are competing against. Effort measures the individuals desire to do their personal best. If a person does their best regardless of the outcome tell your child that you are proud of them.
I believe in you
When a child in foster care knows that you believe in them, they will begin to believe in themselves.
Take responsibility for your life
The system often takes in children who are victims and instead of building them up it at times keeps them victims well into adulthood. We know kids in foster care didn’t create the circumstances that got them into foster care, but if they are going to succeed in life they have to to take responsibility for where they are headed.
We all need a healthy regular dose of “Vitamin N”! Even if in the moment your child doesn’t like being told no they will appreciate you for it later.
Ok these were more phrases of encouragement than they were words of encouragement. I’d love to hear about the words of encouragement you use with your kids. leave a comment below.